1. Writing Your Profile
Most people on The Fetish Network are sincere. But your profile may also be read by people with harmful intentions. Avoid publishing:
- Postal addresses
- Telephone / mobile numbers
- Email addresses
- Credit card / bank details
- Date of birth
- Company name or workplace
- Regular hangout locations or routines
Protect yourself from identity theft and unwanted contact by staying discreet.
2. Messaging and Chatting
Trust your gut. End the conversation if someone:
- Seems dishonest or inconsistent
- Makes inappropriate or pressuring comments
- Ignores your boundaries
- Triggers any sense of unease — even slightly
3. Arranging to Meet
Your safety comes first. Before meeting someone from The Fetish Network:
- Get to know them online or on the phone first
- Meet in a public place
- Use your own transportation
- Don’t share your home address right away
- Tell a friend where you’re going and when you’ll return
- Send yourself an email with the date, time, and person’s info
- Use a code word to alert friends if things feel wrong
- Keep valuables out of sight if hosting
4. Safer Sex
- Use condoms and water-based lube for anal play
- Don’t use oil-based lubes unless latex-safe
- Use condoms for oral if desired
- Dams are recommended for rimming
- Gloves are advised for fisting
- Clean toys thoroughly between users
- Use condoms over toys to reduce risk
- Sterilise floggers and gear if skin was broken
For full guidance, consult your local sexual health clinic.
5. Safer Play
The Fetish Network encourages consensual play under SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) or RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink). Be sure to:
- Agree on boundaries and a safe word (e.g., Red/Amber/Green)
- Use a physical signal if gags are involved
- Never leave a restrained partner alone
- Check for circulation, breathing, and awareness
- Avoid placing ropes around the neck
- Keep medical shears nearby — not kitchen scissors
- Understand the dangers of breath play and learn CPR
- Disclose allergies, medications, and health conditions beforehand
6. Drugs and Alcohol
- Don’t try new substances during a scene or first meet
- Never accept drinks from strangers without caution
- Keep your drink with you in clubs
- Avoid substances that affect your ability to gauge safety
- Take breaks, rehydrate, and monitor partner wellbeing