Male Findom, Real Power, Real Money: Staying Safe in a Space Full of Scams
Financial domination can be powerful, intoxicating, and deeply affirming — especially for male dommes carving out space in a fetish often misunderstood or misrepresented.
But let’s be honest: the findom space is also riddled with scams.
Fake subs. Fake payments. Chargebacks. Stolen identities. Timewasters. “Mentors” who vanish the moment you pay them.
At The Fetish Network, we believe findom should be consensual, empowering, and — above all — safe. This guide breaks down the most common scams in the male findom space and explains how to protect yourself, your energy, and your money.
Why Male Findom Attracts Scammers
Findom operates at the intersection of desire, trust, and money — which makes it a prime target for bad actors.
Scammers exploit:
New dommes who are still learning boundaries
The excitement of large promised payments
Off-platform payment methods with no protection
If you’re a male domme, you may also be targeted by people who assume you’re less experienced, easier to manipulate, or desperate to prove yourself in the space. Awareness is power.
The Most Common Findom Scams (And How to Avoid Them)
1. Payment Reversals & Chargebacks
This is the most dangerous scam in findom — because you often don’t see it coming.
A sub sends you money or buys content. You reward them with time, attention, or material. Weeks later, they reverse the payment through their bank. The money is taken back — sometimes months after you received it.
If you’ve already spent it, that loss comes directly out of your pocket.
How to protect yourself:
Only accept payments through adult-friendly platforms that protect creators from chargebacks. On The Fetish Network, KinkCoins are final, internal, and paid out weekly — removing the risk of reversals entirely.
2. “Upfront Fees” or “Processing Charges”
This scam is extremely common — especially among fake high-paying subs and so-called “sugar” accounts.
The sub promises a large tribute (£200, £500, sometimes more) but claims you need to pay a fee first — often called a processing fee, unlock fee, or transfer fee.
If you send the money, they block you instantly and disappear.
Rule to remember:
A real sub will never ask you to send money. You do not pay to receive tribute. Ever.
3. Fake or Pending Payment Screenshots
Scammers often send convincing screenshots of “successful” or “pending” payments to pressure you into rewarding them early.
The payment never existed.
How to protect yourself:
Never reward a sub until you have confirmed payment on your side. Screenshots mean nothing. Platform confirmation is everything.
4. Timewasters Who Never Send
These subs drain your time instead of your bank account — promising they’ll send “soon” while keeping you talking indefinitely.
How to protect yourself:
Set an initial tribute. This is standard practice in findom. No tribute, no conversation. Your time is valuable.
5. Identity Theft & Catfishing
This scam targets your reputation.
A fake sub asks you to “verify” by recording a custom video saying their username. They then block you and use that video to impersonate you — scamming other subs under your identity.
How to protect yourself:
Use a single, consistent verification method
Never create custom verification videos
Watermark all content
The Fetish Network offers a platform-wide verification process, so members can trust who they’re interacting with — without risky one-off requests.
6. Fake Findom Mentors & Paid “Help”
These scammers pose as successful dommes offering mentorship, access to paying subs, or inclusion in private groups — all for an upfront fee (often £50–£500).
Once you pay, they vanish.
How to protect yourself:
Trust your instincts. Real education is transparent, reviewed, and hosted on reputable platforms — not sold via unsolicited DMs.
7. Fake Paid Promotions & Reposts
You’re contacted by someone claiming to run a large promo page. They offer discounted promotion, take your money, then disappear. The page they reference may be real — but they’re not the owner.
How to protect yourself:
Only work directly with established pages, and verify ownership before paying for promotion.
Why The Fetish Network Is Different
The Fetish Network was built to reduce these risks — not normalise them.
We provide:
Verified profiles — so you know members are who they claim to be
KinkCoins — an internal payment system designed for adult use
Weekly payouts — reliable, predictable, and protected
A kink-aware community — not a free-for-all marketplace
This means no chargebacks, no fake screenshots, and far less exposure to off-platform manipulation.
Final Thoughts: Power Should Never Mean Risk
Findom is about control, consent, and exchange — not stress, fear, or financial loss.
Being cautious doesn’t make you weak. It makes you sustainable.
If you’re exploring male findom — or already active in the space — choosing a platform that prioritises verification and protected payments isn’t optional. It’s essential.
Learn more about how we keep members safe at The Fetish Network, or review our verification process before engaging in financial play.
